With Laura Kim Dooley of Seoul Solutions
Relationships are complex, in that there are two individual people, with different personalities, ways of relating, expectations, and desires. It is only natural to experience differences with our partner. However, these differences often feel like conflicts, power struggles, and threats to the relationship.
Relationship Coaching or Relationship Counseling creates opportunities for growth, as well as helping clients access their ability to experience more love, passion, and connection within their relationship. Through my extensive training and research, I am able to offer many skills and methods to help clients manage their relationships more successfully and cultivate more intimacy and authenticity.
Benefits of Relationship Coaching
- Awareness of habitual patterns and deeper experiences (feelings, thoughts, expectations, and desires)
- Effective and skillful communication
- Ability to confront difficult topics and work towards positive resolution
- Empowerment and internal security
- Passion and authentic intimacy
- Balance of intimacy and autonomy needs
If you want to improve on your current relationships then working with a Relationship Coach can help you achieve your goals.
Below are four major types of relationship, along with just some of the aspects of those relationships that a mindset coach can help you navigate.
- Intimate Problems
- Money issues & Management
- Growing apart (instead of together)
- Space & Individual Growth
- Rivalry in The Workplace
- Negotiation & Communication
- Conflict Resolution
- Assertiveness & Uncertainty
- Recognition Inequality
- Conflict Resolution
- Jealousy & Envy
- Betrayals & Secrets
- Insecurity & Exclusions
- Drifting Apart
- Sibling Rivalry
- Communication with Children
- Elder Care
- Family Secrets
- Finding Balance
What’s the Purpose of a Relationship Coach?
Relationships are fundamental to our sense of happiness and wellbeing. Unfortunately, societal messaging tells us that simply loving someone is enough to make a relationship work; and, if you are having conflict in your relationship, it simply means you have not found the right person.
What if we took this same attitude towards other aspects of our lives? What if we said: “If you were meant to play baseball, you should be able to knock it out of the park the first time you pick up a bat”?
Or “If you were meant to be a musician, you should be able to write your own music as soon as you touch a piano.? We know this is absurd.
So why do we assume we can be automatically great at relationships, if we’re not taught proper relating skills?
This is where a relationship coach comes in. Everyone needs help learning how to be good at what they care about, and relationships are no exception.
How Does a Relationship Coach Work With Me?
Before we can deep dive into a relationship between two or more people, it’s wise to examine the most important one…the relationship with ourselves. It is important to take a close look at aspects such as:
- Limiting Beliefs
- Any Guilt and Shame
- Stress Responses
By examining these particular parts of the self, we can get a more accurate view of how you see and deal with the world. Then, we can explore how your constructs affect your relationships
It’s often necessary to turn a relationship around, or flip it on its side, to get a different perspective. That’s where I come into the picture. By posing thoughtful questions and eliciting honest responses from you, the client, we can delve into areas of the relationship often not breached. That’s usually where the hard work begins. However, you have to feel it…to heal it. And together, that’s what we endeavor to do.
Final Thought: Relationship With Self
Knowing one’s self is the easiest yet most complicated relationship any individual will have! The connection we have with ourselves can sometime be fraught with uncertainty, confusion, struggle for truth, and painful realization. All these aspects have gifts and lessons within.
Allow us to help you unravel the puzzle of yourself. If you have trouble making sense out of the nonsense that ping pongs inside you, see if an hour or two with Laura Kim makes a difference. We don’t hold the keys to figuring out the mystery of you. We only know how to help you find them inside yourself.